While it is natural to seek the approval of others, those who have a high self-esteem, and are self-confident, are able to discount the negative opinions of others and to remain assured of their own self-worth.
Focusing on building your self-confidence can be made easier when you keep these five things in mind the next time you find yourself worried about what someone else believes about you.
1 – Never Guess what Others Might Be Thinking
You cause yourself much unnecessary suffering when you waste your energy imagining that others may intend you harm. You truly have no idea what anyone else is thinking.
Train yourself to avoid making any assumptions about what others may be thinking – and train yourself to avoid making any assumptions about why other people choose to do or to say something – or to not do or to not say anything.
2 – Live Your Own Life
There is no way your life is “supposed” to be lived. There are no “authorities” appointed to judge the worthiness of your life. You have no responsibility to please anyone other than yourself. Be of service to humanity, but never be anyone’s doormat.
Live your own life full out. Live boldly with vision, purpose, and commitment. Establish your own life purpose, and live your own life.
3 – Make Your Own Choices
Your plan for your life is the only plan that matters. Your parents and your family, perhaps your church and your friends, have plans for your life, but those people are mere spectators of your life – the life you get to live every day.
4 – Value Your Own Opinions
Why would you consider someone else’s opinions, or wishes, to be more important than your own? In fact, why should anyone else’s opinions carry any weight whatsoever in how you live your life? Make your life choices sincerely and deliberately. Then never second-guess your own values and choices simply because they may not be approved of by those around you.
5 – Choose to Associate Mostly with Positive People Who Support You
You can’t completely avoid negative people – there are probably a few negative people in your extended family and where you work.
However, you can make the choice to limit your exposure to negative people, and to cultivate friends and acquaintances who have a positive outlook on life, who share many of your essential values, and who value you as a person.