Lying becomes the narcissist’s refuge from unresolved and unreconciled emotions. It allows them to cope but at the cost of destroying their true self, which comes with several repercussions.

The narcissistic personality itself is a lie. Lies are the foundation for all of the narcissist’s beliefs. Therefore, getting the truth out of a narcissist’s default statement of falsehood is equivalent to performing mental gymnastics.

When dealing with narcissists, for your own emotional protection, it is important to continually remind yourself that they are not operating in the same reality as you are. They may be there physically, but inside they can be completely disconnected.

They will say and do whatever it takes to achieve their immediate wants, but there is no enduring morality behind it. What is proffered as an absolute truth or even a belief system now may not be so tomorrow. Do not take their statements at face value and always look for the facts in their warning signs – the real truth behind their manipulative tactics. Continue reading →

The average person spends roughly 90,000 total hours or at least a third of their lifetime at work. The workplace can be one of our daily life’s greatest influences and sources of either joy or misery. It is not surprising why people can get so stressed and get sick from their jobs alone.

One of the greatest sources of anxiety at work, surprisingly, is beyond the very reason why we go to work. They’re the people we work with regularly who can contribute so much to our everyday reality and whether our experiences are generally pleasant or generally devastating.

According to an anonymous source, “people don’t quit jobs, they quit bosses.” Whether it is a boss or a colleague you work very closely with, it can be influential enough to define your reality and experience at work. Continue reading →