Some people may not even realize their family dynamics are not what others consider normal. However, that poses the question, what is normal? It is fair to say that a ‘normal’ family should be a source of love, safety, and support, but what happens if it’s not, and it’s completely the opposite?

What Makes a Family Dysfunctional?

A dysfunctional family is one where the relationships feel more like a burden than a source of comfort. Sometimes, it’s obvious to see. There may be frequent fighting, emotional neglect, or even abusive behaviors. Other times, it’s less clear. There might be unspoken rules, constant tension, or an underlying sense that something isn’t quite right, even if no one openly addresses it.

This kind of environment can make it hard to feel safe or understood, which is what we all deeply crave in our family connections. Continue reading →

Unfortunately, growing up in a dysfunctional family can shape you in ways you might not fully understand at first. It’s not just about the chaos or painful experiences you may have had, it’s the way these experiences subtly (or not so subtly) create you… and the way you relate to others.

The effects of your experiences can be dragged along with you and into your adult life, influencing your mental and emotional health in ways that may be hard to comprehend. However, recognizing these impacts is the first step toward healing and creating a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Understanding Dysfunctional Family Patterns

In a dysfunctional family environment, certain unhealthy patterns or dynamics dominate. For example, maybe there was a parent who was overly controlling, critical, or emotionally not there for you. Perhaps conflict or instability made your home a place where you had to walk on eggshells. Or, you might have been placed in a role that you didn’t want to be in. Continue reading →